Hi there, I’ll meet you with my warm, relaxed and focussed style as we get to know each other and together build a good understanding of where you are at, how you got there, and where you would like to be. Then we’ll see what we can do to get you on your way and help you to start feeling better as soon as possible.
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Pain is inevitable but enduring suffering is unnecessary. Pain alerts us to something such as loss, a boundary being crossed or that we have hurt someone or that someone has hurt us.
Pain hurts, but there is a purity to it, a naturalness, when we really let ourselves feel it. People don’t come to see a psychologist because of pain, they come because they are suffering.
We do not suffer on purpose.
Suffering occurs because we try to cope with reality in a way that doesn’t work anymore. For instance when we deny, ignore, suppress, distort, minimise or exaggerate our pain. We can also suffer when we struggle to recover from something awful from our past, or when we have taken on a belief that distorts our perspective.
Suffering does not feel pure or natural, it feels like a contortion of the mind. It is expressed through states such as depression, anxiety, meaninglessness, subjective worthlessness, rumination and OCD, addiction, shame, PTSD, hopelessness and many more.
I enjoy complementing powerful behavioural interventions with an examination of the deeper issues at the heart of people’s suffering; i.e. to get the ball rolling quickly with simple changes that can often yield great benefits.
I feel privileged to help clients learn to regulate their anxiety, so that they can confront the difficulties and disappointments of their life and feel their pain, and set themselves free from their suffering. To help them feel anger at people who hurt them, rather than blame themselves which makes them depressed and anxious. To help them feel guilt for something they did rather than shame themselves for who they believe it makes them. To help them accept uncertainty rather than endlessly ruminating over worst-case scenarios. To help them confront horrible memories and hence process and heal from them. To help them feel their sadness rather than numbing it and by collateral numbing themselves to life and joy and meaning.
Good on you for seeking help.
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